Relationships are joy and pain. People are avenues for expressing feelings, thoughts and ideas. To be fair, I can understand how hermits become hermits--hiding away in a shell of solitude. Solitude guarantees that bad feelings, thoughts and ideas will not be received. Solitude maintains a level of control and sterility. People that know you the best are able to hurt you the most. How many times have I thought, “Don’t say what you’re about to say. It’s going to hurt them too much,” and then I spew the hurtful words anyways. It’s in people’s willingness to share their lives, vulnerabilities and weaknesses with me that I have been able to hurt them the most.