Raising a child means making a lot of decisions--ones that shape the rest of his life. His brain development, emotional attachment and physical progress depend on the decisions we make.
- Will we use an attachment parenting style?
- Should we let him cry until he soothes himself?
- How much should we balance keeping ourselves sane vs keeping him alive?
- Is it okay that he already has a tattoo?
There are so many decisions, and it's overwhelming to think my lack of wisdom could hurt his potential and future.
During these moments, I encourage myself by saying,
"Dumber people than me have raised great children."
This is a pretty arrogant and cocky statement. In the future, I'm pretty sure people will think the same thing and think of me. For the record, I believe comparison is a bad thing. Comparison breeds either insecurity or arrogance. In my more challenging moments, however, it brings me comfort.
When I drop something on him, I think "Dumber people than me have raised great children."
When I accidentally let him pee in his own eye, I think "Dumber people than me have raised great children."
When I can't figure out why he's crying for over an hour, I think "Dumber people than me have raised great children."
I guess it just gives me hope for Obi to have a great future.
To the less than capable people who have raised great children, thank you--I'll join you soon.