Arrogant Assurance [BabyDaddy Day 14]

Raising a child means making a lot of decisions--ones that shape the rest of his life. His brain development, emotional attachment and physical progress depend on the decisions we make. 

  • Will we use an attachment parenting style?
  • Should we let him cry until he soothes himself?
  • How much should we balance keeping ourselves sane vs keeping him alive?
  • Is it okay that he already has a tattoo?

There are so many decisions, and it's overwhelming to think my lack of wisdom could hurt his potential and future. 

During these moments, I encourage myself by saying, 

"Dumber people than me have raised great children."

This is a pretty arrogant and cocky statement. In the future, I'm pretty sure people will think the same thing and think of me. For the record, I believe comparison is a bad thing. Comparison breeds either insecurity or arrogance. In my more challenging moments, however, it brings me comfort. 

When I drop something on him, I think "Dumber people than me have raised great children."

When I accidentally let him pee in his own eye, I think "Dumber people than me have raised great children."

When I can't figure out why he's crying for over an hour, I think "Dumber people than me have raised great children."

I guess it just gives me hope for Obi to have a great future. 

To the less than capable people who have raised great children, thank you--I'll join you soon.